An abbreviated version of the review for Pjur appeared on SheVibe, under the name “Discerning Sybarite.”
Before I knew much about lubes, I had this somewhat horrifying “philosophy” that it was tacky to purchase one’s own lube. I felt the same about alcohol. If it was offered, I’d take it (and rather greedily, I might add), but I’d never buy it for myself.
Now, of course, I see purchasing one own’s lube as an act of responsible, self-respecting adulthood. I see that my not buying lube was a sign of passivity in sexual matters, my inability to take control and make decisions. Also, I was ignorant. I had no idea what to look for in a lube, and I was afraid if I bought the “wrong” kind I’d reveal that ignorance or worse: my bad taste. And does buying lube mean you had sex? It was only for sex, right? I didn’t even use lotion when masturbating.
Today, I know lube is a necessity if I want to have sex or use a toy, and it can add fun to a regular old handjob. I also know that what you buy does matter. There’s a beautiful variety of lubes for an array of activities, and I keep a small arsenal of lubes now. If a lube contains an ingredient that’s banned in Europe, I won’t buy it. I can choose to put my money where my values are--in shopping small and local and supporting companies that value sexual well-being, environmentalism, and the human body.
With that being said, let me start off by writing about two silicone lubes. I almost hesitate to even write about Pjur, because they’re such a large and successful company, surely everyone knows about it? But I really like it. Pjur Bodyglide is a silky, condom-safe, long-lasting lube. It’s my favorite for intercourse, but you can’t use it with silicone toys, which sucks when you want to use a toy in the shower. Silicone is the only waterproof lube, but it will make your tub dangerously slick if there’s a spill (or if applied liberally...) It is thicker than some silicone lubes, and I know people that don’t like that consistency. I find it just gorgeous when used for a massage! The bottle makes it easy to pour, and I love using it generously all over my body for a slick rub, transitioning nicely into a well-lubed fuck. Silicone lube won’t absorb into your skin, so you’ll feel it until you wash with soap and water. I haven’t noticed it staining clothes or sheets, which is what I’ve heard about Gun Oil. The packaging is discreet and doesn’t say anywhere that it’s a sexual lubricant, just that it’s a “body moisturizer.” But everyone knows about Pjur, right?
If you want to support a smaller, newer business, buy Uberlube from your friendly neighborhood sex shop. It comes in a gorgeous glass bottle with a pump, and the name printed across it in white letters. It’s really modern looking, and I like the brazen (but tastefully so) name. It has a slicker consistency than Pjur. Once my Pjur runs out I’m going to switch to Uberlube, because I like to put my money where my ethics are. Mr. Dalloway is wild about Uberlube, as you can see in the picture--he can go through a small bottle in about two months.
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